Do I Have Your Trust?

Do you have difficulties with trust in your relationships?

Have you noticed your relationships between your teen, your adult child, or your other relationships become distant? Have you wondered why?

Do you have your guard up in your relationships?

Are you able to sit in discomfort when you are having difficult conversations, or do you try to fix them?

Do you struggle validating others needs so they can be heard, affirmed, and be seen by you?

So, how do you build trust in your relationships if it feels broken? First, let’s unpack the idea of trust. The components of Trust are: Care, Motivation Awareness, Competence, and Reliability; which are conveyed through feelings, behaviors, actions, and logic of a person. Trust is a mutual contract between two people. It’s often an unspoken contract. In relationships, people may assume the other person knows what they need or want. Due to this, you may have misunderstanding; thus, trust may be broken.

So what can you do about it? Let’s unpack the idea of trust a little further by using the analogy of trust with a three-legged stool. First, there is the seat which we will call Care. The legs of the stool consist of motivation awareness, competence, and reliability. As you envision this stool, what happens to the stool if one of the legs (i.e. reliability) is weaker (shorter) than the other legs. The stool starts to become unstable. This is what happens with trust. You may be really strong with reliability, but weak with motivation awareness. Your motivation awareness is low; but your reliability is high. So the first part of rebuilding trust is knowing what your trust score.

Coaching can help you to start feeling more confident to develop meaningful relationships and to build trust.

I developed a questionnaire to help you measure your trust score. If you interested in knowing what your trust score is, click on the link below.