Are You Your Own Safety Net?

We all can recognize how important trust is when it comes to having relationships with others; but have you ever thought about how important trust is to yourself?

This probably sounds silly. You are probably thinking “Of course I trust myself!”

How often do you ask others for their opinions? When you make a decision, are you uncertain of the choices you made?

How often have you put the needs of others before yours — as mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, friends? If you consistently do these things, you may start to lose trust in yourself.

Do you want to stop doubting yourself and start building meaningful and positive relationships? Do you want to feel more confident and at ease with yourself?

One way to start feeling more confident, at ease, and build meaningful relationships, is to first build trust within yourself. The components of Trust are Care, Motivation, Competence, and Reliability; which are conveyed through feelings, behaviors, actions, and logic of a person.

Now, let’s unpack the idea of Trust using the analogy of a three-legged stool. First, there is the seat which we will call Care. The legs of the stool consist of Motivation, Competence, and Reliability. As you envision this stool, what happens to the stool if one of the legs (i.e. Reliability) is weaker (shorter) than the other legs. The stool starts to become unstable.  This is what happens with trust. You may be really strong with Motivation, but weak with Reliability. Your motivation is high; but your reliability is poor.

Coaching can help you build trust from within.

I developed a questionnaire to help you measure your trust score. If you are interested  in finding out your trust score, click on the link below.